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  • Writer's pictureCarl Blanz

Relieve The Burden of Confusion

Our inner stories chug along at a medium volume and tempo, sometimes increasing in intensity, sometimes decreasing in intensity

 

They speed up and get louder when we see what we like and want

 

And, when we see what we don’t want

 

Effective listening is easiest when inner stories are undetectable

 

When successful, it generates the condition of feeling understood

 

Understanding and feeling understood are relief from the burden of confusion

 

We can slow and quiet down the inner stories by challenging the belief that agree and disagree are always critical, sometimes, they just get in the way

 

You can measure how well you listen, by asking the speaker; “Do you think I understand you yet?”

 

You know you are on track when they say “No”. Almost all of the time, they will follow that up with something they want you to understand

 

Keep listening and repeating your understanding until they say; “Yes, you got it!”

 

At that moment, your relationship will be in a new place – less confusion

 

Teach them how to do this, that’s how you’ll learn



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